Nicole Daedone likens OM to any other kind of meditation. The practice encourages partners to attune and focus on sensation. While climax may be part of the orgasmic experience, it isn’t the goal. OM is about women receiving the full depth of feminine orgasm - with its ebbs and waves of the experience. It’s aim is to fill her deeply. The results are long-lasting, and the satiation of the experience transfers over into the way a woman lives her life, with that same sense of fullness and satisfaction with herself.
Nicole Daedone has appeared on Nightline, and her work can be found in the New York Times and the San Francisco Chronicle, among other publications.
click here for this easy recipe. you’ll be able to use this crazy delicious nut milk instead of cow’s milk (we are the only species that drinks another animal’s milk, eww) in your oatmeal, granola, smoothies, and it’s too die for. fully worth the effort.
Who’s always with you, never leaves your side, is inextricably linked to you wherever you go, however you feel, like it or not? Your body. It is your faithful dog, waiting on your every move and whim to do your bidding. So why is it so many of us have such a fraught/abusive relationship with this devoted and obedient spacesuit? Lately I’ve been experiencing quite a bit of pain in my severely compromised neck and back and I become irate with it, as if it has betrayed me, or is holding me back from having fun. Or I look in the mirror and am aghast at the bits and pieces that are looking older and losing the taughtness of youth. My body is doing the best it can to serve me, has kept me alive and well for many many years now, and has been especially patient with my outrageous demands. So what can I do to show my gratitude instead of acting like an entitled child who can’t accept limits? Well, for starters I could be compassionate towards her and appreciate being carried this far. She has given me my beloved child, and has won the DWTS mirrorball for me, she happily climbs up the pole at my behest, and provides me with enough endorphins to beat any high made by a pharmacist. Since having my child, I often think “Would I treat my daughter the way I treat myself? Would I criticize her body parts, mercilessly holding them up to some impossible standard?” Never. So why not model for her a little self acceptance and be kind to myself, and my body. One of the reasons I am so crazy about my S Factor class is that there are no mirrors, it is dimly lit and I give my body permission to play and move however she needs to without expectations or judgement. There is just music, and a bunch of women I don’t know outside of class but who’s feminine energy comes in every shape size and are all equally divine, scantily clad crawling on the floor, sliding up and down poles, and for those two hours I am amazed at the abundance of joy my body/soul can produce, and my neck has forgotten that it hurts.
Elisabet Spaulding, one of my go-to food friends, rocked my world last night when she introduced me to 101 Cookbook’s “Magic Sauce.” The moment it touched my lips, I was hard pressed to think of one thing I wouldn’t put it on. They call it Magic Sauce, “because it makes everything it touches shimmer with deliciousness…You’re best off making a double or triple batch. This is the sort of stuff you burn through in minutes. Not exaggerating. I cook eggs in it - scrambled, omelette, frittata, you name it. I drizzle it on soups. I can attest it’s the sort of thing that makes baked potatoes even better than usual. And salads welcome it as well - particularly shaved salads, or ones made from spicy greens. You can use it to marinate or slather ingredients before grilling or roasting. And its the sort of dressing that turns a bowl full of farro or quinoa or soba noodles into something close to a full meal - just toss in another favorite seasonal ingredient or two.” -101 CookBooks
Before I did Dancing With The Stars, I had developed a pretty intense case of stage fright that was making any kind of live performance something I actively avoided. But, as with lots of kinds of anxiety, it was gradually and insidiously making my world smaller. Even though I had always loved dancing, I hadn’t done it for 20 years, so my fear of a live show was never going to allow me to say yes to something as harrowing as DWTS. It was just not an option for me. But because I’m devoted to experiencing as much joy as I possibly can in this life, while also trying to model doing something in spite of fear for my young daughter, I really had no choice but to take some action.
The hypnotist Caroline Conger designed a recording customized for me. She also has some “off the rack” hypnosis that creates deep relaxation in the body and therefore the mind. I listen to this link, in addition to my own version, to take a nap or go to sleep. I use it when I feel anxious or overwhelmed, and it has afforded me deep and lasting results. It’s great to listen to on an airplane (download it onto your iTunes) or sometimes I even go places 20 minutes early so I can reboot midday. I just pull over in my car, lock my doors, put my seat back and chill.
You won’t be squawking like a chicken, but please for God’s sake do not listen to it while you’re driving. Hypnosis is most effective when you’re not completely unconscious, but rather when you’re in an alpha state. ”The alpha state is a light hypnotic state—relaxed, yet focused and receptive. In this state of consciousness, a person is calm, able to absorb new information and become more resourceful and open to new possibilities.” C’mon…Who doesn’t want that?
In this TED Talk Esther Perel talks about desire and longing in committed longterm relationships.
“Desire comes with the ability to stay connected to one’s self in the presence of another. If you are dead inside, the other person can do a lot of things for Valentine’s. It won’t make a dent. So it is about: “I turn myself off when…” and “I turn myself on when…”, in stead of “You..” or “What..”.
The paradox between love and desire is that the very ingredients that nurture love are sometimes the very ingredients that stifle desire. Basically most of us will get turned on at night by the very same things that we will demonstrate against during the day. The erotic mind is not very politically correct.
What creates feelings of desire obviously varies from woman to woman, but I believe that the popularity of 50 Shades of Grey is an indication of how starved women are, in particular, for those feelings. In 50 Shades, the protagonist is a 20 something year old virgin (a time free of emotional baggage coupled with raging hormones urging us on to procreate) who has her first sexual experiences, doing things she had never even imagined, with a powerful, emotionally damaged/dangerous and gorgeous man. 50 Shades might actually be the worst book ever written, but what is inherently powerful in this story is the sexual tension that seems to be what women everywhere crave. The unknown, the unpredictable, the threat of possible humiliation (gasp!) and the constant striving for something always just beyond reach, is what I gleaned from the chapters I could muster reading. That tension is the secret sauce starkly missing from the monotony of a stable, monogamous marriage. But isn’t the notion of “security” really an illusion anyway when you really think about it? There is another alternative to depressing, poorly written Mommy Porn…
Esther Perel says:
“I look at this person and I momentarily get a shift in perception, and I stay open to the mysteries that are living right next to me.”
"When I get back in touch with my ability to imagine myself with my partner, rooting it in absence and in longing, which is a major component of desire."
"When I look at my partner, radiant and confident, from a comfortable distance, where this person that is already so familiar, so known, is momentarily once again somewhat mysterious, somewhat elusive."
"When there is novelty. Novelty is not about a repertoire of techniques, but about what parts of yourself you bring out and how you express them. It’s a language with it’s poetics."
"Looking at this as an intelligence, it’s something that you cultivate, with the central agent called the imagination."